{"id":608,"date":"2015-01-08T12:38:56","date_gmt":"2015-01-08T21:38:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/cms.shelquist.us\/?p=608"},"modified":"2015-01-08T12:38:56","modified_gmt":"2015-01-08T21:38:56","slug":"jan-8-the-question-is-why-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cms.shelquist.us\/?p=608","title":{"rendered":"Jan. 8 – The Question is: “Why Me?”"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Often patients tell me they are worried.\u00a0 One option I have is to tell them not to worry.\u00a0 This is not a good option to follow because worry is the result of the emotion of fear, and emotions can\u2019t be turned off by command.\u00a0 So how do I respond when someone tells me they are worried?<\/p>\n

I ask them to explain what they are worried about.\u00a0 As they give their explanations usually a few key phrases they speak are fertile ground for conversation.\u00a0 By listening and responding with open ended questions, people are able to process their emotions and come to a place of better peace than they were before I entered the room.<\/p>\n

One frustration I have is when the conversation reveals deep friction between members of a family.\u00a0 When a patient has cancer, cardiac issues, or pulmonary issues; the last thing they need to worry about is drama caused by other members of the family.\u00a0 The family drama saps their energy when it is already at a low level anyway.<\/p>\n

I am a firm believer that there are two sides to every interaction and it takes both participants to work to get along.\u00a0 So I am not saying the patient has no responsibility for the friction that exists.\u00a0 At times of illness; it is helpful if family members can declare a truce<\/strong>.\u00a0 Set the issues that caused the division aside and work on supporting the family member who is the patient.\u00a0 It takes maturity, sensitivity, and discipline to make any truce work.\u00a0 The benefit of placing less emotional stress on the patient is well worth the effort when there is a strong likelihood that the health of the patient will be better when the stress level is reduced.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

  Often patients tell me they are worried.\u00a0 One option I have is to tell them not to worry.\u00a0 This is not a good option to follow because worry is the result of the emotion of fear, and emotions can\u2019t be turned off by command.\u00a0 So how do I respond when someone tells me they … Continue reading Jan. 8 – The Question is: “Why Me?”<\/span> →<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-608","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/cms.shelquist.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/608","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/cms.shelquist.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/cms.shelquist.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cms.shelquist.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cms.shelquist.us\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=608"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/cms.shelquist.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/608\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":611,"href":"https:\/\/cms.shelquist.us\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/608\/revisions\/611"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/cms.shelquist.us\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=608"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cms.shelquist.us\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=608"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/cms.shelquist.us\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=608"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}